Becoming a Super Encourager – Turning a Negative Experience into a Positive Intent

becoming a super encourager

Sometimes a really negative experience can shape a really positive life decision. Today I decided to become a ‘Super Encourager.’ Allow me to extrapolate…

Yesterday, I went to see the asthma nurse for my yearly asthma review. I was excited to see her and let her know that I was now off my inhalers thanks to changing my diet.

About a minute into our meeting, and just as I was sharing about my improvement, another nurse walked into the office and started asking about a job she was trying to do and after that, the nurse who was doing my review changed the topic, rushed through the questions and not once acknowledge what an achievement it was for someone to basically eradicate their asthma. The ONLY thing she remarked on was that my blood pressure was a bit on the low side. I mean… really?!

Luckily, my husband and I were going for a swim and sauna after that. I could sweat it all out – especially my huge disappointment at the lack of empathy and encouragement. I was not treated with respect at all and, sadly, this is all too common in the care system, not just in the UK but also in my native Sweden.

All the health changes I implemented since January this year have been self-motivated. I didn’t NEED the encouragement from the outside to keep going. My improved health is indeed reward enough… but the lack of enthusiasm or any kind of feeling cared for at all by the nurse who saw me yesterday made me realise that I need to set another intent now.
I want to be a Super Encourager… Need a cheerleader, ping me!

The world is full of people who don’t care, not even when they get paid to do so in a professional capacity. I don’t want to waste another minute on not being full on, 100% supportive of everyone who blesses me with their presence. Life is hard enough as it is. I have always tried to do this but today I set the intent to BE this, always, every single day, no matter what…

I was raised with very little encouragement and plenty of stern disapproval from my father. It’s made me hard on myself and it has taken a LOT to reprogram the voice of my inner Saturn. Looking back, I can now see what a blessing it has been that I was forced to do this work. I recognise this inner voice in other people, including my clients, and I can counterbalance it.

Also, I completely recognise that it was a need of mine to feel just a little bit mothered that wasn’t met yesterday. That need is still there but I have to meet that need myself by resting my head in Divine Mother’s lap, just as I always did since the day my mother left when I was three years old, even when I didn’t realise this is what I was doing…

The thing is, thanks to being hooked up vertically, I can give what I never had to others… and, truth be told, nothing brings me greater joy than being able to do this.

Love and Blessings,


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  1. I love this so much. In the last few days I have also been reminded that my expectation of finding support from others hasn’t been fulfilled and I need to learn to give myself the feeling of safety that I long for. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, it’s such a great help and really encouraging.

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