Are you hiding your sense of loss or emptiness by working harder? Today is a good day for any workaholics out there to take a moment to ponder whether or not you are using work as an excuse to not have to deal with the reality of your emotions and relationships.
The sense of grief and isolation can only be temporarily soothed by work. Sooner or later, reality will catch up. You get to choose if that will happen through burn-out further down the line, or if you will press pause now and take an honest look at your soul-self and your feelings.
Many of us learned that keeping busy…kept us at a distance from our feelings…Some of us took the ways we busied ourselves—becoming overachievers & workaholics—as self esteem…But whenever our inner feeling did not match our outer surface, we were doing ourselves a disservice…If stopping to rest meant being barraged with this discrepancy, no wonder we were reluctant to cease our obsessive activity.
― Maureen Brady
Each person’s drive to overwork is unique, and doing too much numbs every workaholic’s emotions differently. Sometimes overwork numbs depression, sometimes anger, sometimes envy, sometimes sexuality. Or the overworker runs herself ragged in a race for attention.
― Arlie Russell Hochschild
For a very long time now I’ve been saying to young women, ‘You can have it all, but not all at the same time.’ How important it is to take very good care of yourself, of your mental and physical and spiritual wellbeing; it’s hard to do. It’s easier to be a workaholic than to have a truly balanced life.
― Quentin Bryce
Take five today and light a candle for your soul’s repose. Site quietly for a minute and just be, just breathe… When you feel that your energy has returned into your body, you can ask of the cards, what do I need for greater balance in my life right now? Pull just one card and read it intuitively, relating the image to what is actually happening in your life and feelings at the moment.
Have a great day!